Comments on saviabella: In-valid

we sniffed over to wish you a Happee Blogoversary!...

2008-05-06T21:09:00.000-06:00

we sniffed over to wish you a Happee Blogoversary! we sorry you not feeling well but it sounds like it was necessary fur your future well being

waggin TX tails barking loud lots of the time

Happy Blogoversary!

2008-05-06T20:50:00.000-06:00

Happy Blogoversary!

Kisses for you. But what about me? I thought you...

2008-05-06T20:11:00.000-06:00

Kisses for you. But what about me? I thought you said their were photos of monkeys with braces on? Huh? What? At least monkeys with saggy old man breasts or something???

This shit is hard, and there is no way to get thos...

2008-05-04T11:39:00.000-06:00

This shit is hard, and there is no way to get those who haven't gone through it to validate it for you, which makes it harder.

It does get better, though, and this is not forever, thank jeebus. Just remember to be patient with yourself. I find that learning patience with myself is a long road, but it does the most good.

Am I ever advicey today. Forgive me. I have no right, because I'm the person who's just waking up after 11!

If I could make a giant band-aid for your soul, I ...

2008-05-03T23:18:00.000-06:00

If I could make a giant band-aid for your soul, I would. It's hard for people to understand that while the outside looks ok, the inside isn't. It is beyond frustrating to feel as though you are in recovery limbo and not getting better.

But, as my mamma always says, "This too shall pass". It drove me bonkers for years whenever she said it, but it is very true. Your insides will get better and this will eventually just be story to beat all others when people start trading surgery stories. (At least you don't have to take your pants off to show your surgery scars. Not to say you couldn't if you wanted to....)

Aw, my friend. I'm so sorry you're having such a t...

2008-05-03T17:21:00.000-06:00

Aw, my friend. I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time lately. I hear sushi or Indian food helps the journey!

Isn't it funny how recovery from physical trauma mirrors so closely recovery from emotional trauma? You suffer something - a death, a dumping, whatever - and every is so there for you until...until they figure you should be fine and then the support disappears. They throw you looks that say, "What the hell is wrong with you? That happened AGES ago! Gawd!"

I've never had any physical trauma to recover from but believe me, I am a SLOW emotional healer.

It'll get better, I'm sure.

ahem..."Annnnd IIIIIIIIIIIIIII-eeeeeeee-IIIIIIII w...

2008-05-02T08:49:00.000-06:00

ahem...

"Annnnd IIIIIIIIIIIIIII-eeeeeeee-IIIIIIII willlll allwaaaaaayyyys looooovvve yooooUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!"

it's true.
i don't care how many words you forget or how many doorways you walk into.

and also, i think that you are incredibly strong - and while you may feel that you're completely alone, it's obvious by these commenters that you're not. You are fabulous, and beautiful, smart, and funny, and i'm sorry if i ever assume that you're "back to normal"... or that anyone else does.

but i'm sure that someday, you WILL be back to feeling normal. Hang in there bella. We're rootin' for ya!

ahhh mia bella ... I SO feel for you. I wish I cou...

2008-05-01T16:04:00.000-06:00

ahhh mia bella ... I SO feel for you. I wish I could kiss it and make it all better. Heavy sigh.

I do want to say a HUGE thank you though: "Anesthetic stays in your body for up to a year after surgery. It slows you down, you forget things, you lose your train of thought, you stumble into doorways, and you get tired easily. After major surgery, your immune system is compromised, you're more susceptible to viruses and they hit you a lot harder than they did before."
I had no idea it was that long, and it's nice to know that it's not age and decrepitude that is causing my lethargy and incosistent memory.
BIGHUGE dk hugs

All of the above, and then some. It's difficult t...

2008-05-01T14:36:00.000-06:00

All of the above, and then some. It's difficult to avoid downward spiralling at times like this. I've never had major surgery, but I did go through 8 months of a chronic-fatigue-like condition (never was properly diagnosed). I looked fine, but I thought I might have to stop working full-time I was so weak and achey all the time.

The neat part is that the experience changed me in a positive way, slowed me down, and got my priorities reorganized. I'm not the type A I once was. Now I enjoy going slow, even when it's not enforced.

Hi John,The jaw surgery came about after I started...

2008-05-01T14:34:00.000-06:00

Hi John,

The jaw surgery came about after I started having migraines and discovered that it was my overbite that was causing TMJ problems. I got braces and sat on a waiting list for the surgery for two years, so having the surgery was a positive and welcome experience for me. I just didn't know the recovery would be so long and difficult.

Thanks for the support, John. And no worries about the shirts. As someone who has been talking a bunch of unpaid leave because of sickness, I understand the stress a lack of $$ brings. Of course, this doesn't stop me from shopping, which is why you're a much more responsible person than I am.

But the shirts - they'll always be there. But now, they'll be waiting for you, in boy blue ;)

Savia,I just wanted to pass along my well wishes. ...

2008-05-01T13:49:00.000-06:00

Savia,

I just wanted to pass along my well wishes. I have never had a major surgery, only some minor ones. I'm sure your struggle is not an easy one and I can certainly understand that you are frustrated. Something I missed; what happened to make your jaw surgery necessary? -

Totally nonrelated but I'm sorry I haven't ordered your shirt yet. I've been hemorraging $$ these past few months and need to tighten up where I can. I totally dig it and will probably order when things lighten up a bit.

Love from the States.

Thank you all for the support. I really appreciate...

2008-05-01T11:51:00.000-06:00

Thank you all for the support. I really appreciate it.

It's good to know that other people have been through this too, though I wish you didn't have to know how it feels.

Thanks for the advice, Kelliqua. I have all of those things in my cupboard, but when things start going sideways, I forget to keep taking them. Just when I need them most. So the reminder is a good thing for sure.

Bacioni,

Thanks for the link to the EFT. I will check it out. I am definitely open to alternatives, particularly because drugs seem to mess me up so badly these days.

Smooches all around ;)

It's been a good long while (thank goodness) since...

2008-05-01T10:40:00.000-06:00

It's been a good long while (thank goodness) since I went through the suckiness of recovering from surgery, I sure do know how you feel. I also remembering going through the in-validness feeling.

Since you are into holistic healing, I would like to recommend to you something called EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). It really does work, and it's quite an amazing process. The manual is a free download at emofree.com.

Don't forget to take care of yourself. Treat yourself kindly.

Poor Savia. I do hope you feel normal soon. And yo...

2008-05-01T08:09:00.000-06:00

Poor Savia. I do hope you feel normal soon. And you probably already know this, but, vitamin B12, calcium and magnesium can help restore your brain, and mood, a little faster. Also EFA's.

Although I'm sure you're sick of drink-as-food, think of smoothies with yogurt, fruit and a vegetable or two and flax oil/meal as brain food.

I know what you are saying. The last time I had s...

2008-05-01T08:01:00.000-06:00

I know what you are saying. The last time I had surgery it was to remove some cancer, during the immediate weeks following people were great to me but after that period of what people felt was a long enough time for me to recover everyone just kind of forgot. I still had pain and issues with coping but people took on the attitude of "suck it up princess".

I was frustrated beyond belief and the only thing that I can offer is use it to become stronger. Take the frustration and say "you know what? Fuck you surgery, fuck you and your long ass recovery period". I can't guarantee that it will work for you but it worked for me. I still took a while to recover but I felt better while it happened.

I hope you start to feel better soon and your frustrations become less and less as time goes by.

Any surgery is a trumatic experience for the body ...

2008-05-01T00:08:00.000-06:00

Any surgery is a trumatic experience for the body and the mind, and I think doctors are afraid of telling their patients how long it really will take to be in tip-top shape again. I'm sorry for the frustrations. Time usually heals everything. I hope it speeds up for you.