Dealbreakers

Post-Superstar, I've been on a few dates, but haven't actually dated anyone seriously. There have been some first dates, but not a lot of second or third because I'm at the point in my life when I'm not willing to overlook some major deal breakers.

When I look back at my past relationships, part of the reason they didn't work is because I overlooked things I shouldn't have.

I overlooked them for a variety of reasons: I was in love with the guy's potential, but not who he was at that moment; he had everything going for him except for a few major flaws; I just really wanted it to work out and felt that if I just worked hard, it would be okay; I was afraid to be alone; or I was too insecure to speak up and risk the person rejecting me.

So, this is my list of deal breakers, based on former dates and relationships. Never again.

• Alcoholics, chain-smokers, and/or potheads.
  
  
• The dude who's slept around who has never been tested for STDs because he's scared of needles.
  
  
• The dude who's slept around who begs you to have sex with him without a condom, even though he's never been tested for STDs because he's scared of needles, and who has obviously had a lot of sex without condoms because he doesn't carry them or have any in his house.
  
  
• The dude with more baggage than you who hasn't gone to therapy or dealt with it in any real way.
  
  
• The workaholic who has no time for you.
  
  
• The dude who has his whole future planned out to the minute detail and just wants to slot a woman into the role he's created for her.
  
  
• The dude who uses judgment and manipulation to control you.
  
  
• The dude who is still in love with his ex.
  
  
• Liars.
  
  
• Cheaters.
  
  
• The dumb guy, but at least he's cute.
  
  
• Right-wingers.
  
  
• The dude who dumps you when he finds out you have problems with depression.
  
  
• Guys who put sports before your relationship.
  
  
• Clingy guys.
  
  
• Dudes who don't get your sense of humour, and/or don't have good ones of their own.
  
  
• The dude who isn't over his divorce.
  
  
• The dude who still fights with his ex.
  
  
• The dude who hates his ex and can't let the past go.
  
  
• The dude who hates his ex, who is the mother of his child/ren.
  
  
• The depressed guy who won't get help.
  
  
• The guy who can't hold down a job and isn't really trying.
  
  
• The overly religious guy who keeps trying to get you to come to his house to watch and discuss religious videos with him and his friends.
  

What are your deal breakers? Add to my list in the comments.